i associate with people who blame, and am a person who blames, the world for their problems, because we’re right. however, i am indeed my own solution.
example - misogyny is a test of permissiveness, by letting shit pass, you are mentally and transparently passive—open to further and more excessive attacks.
id rather be fucking safe than liked, because only predators dont like you keeping yourself safe. women dont create misogyny, misogyny is created by elites to cut an entire half of the population out of the pie—but women opting out of the system that runs on misogyny, thats the solution.
IN ORDER OF HIGHLY SUBJECTIVE DIFFICULTY
opt out of dating the misogynistic
opt out of being friends with the misogynistic
opt out of working for the misogynistic (opt out of the capitalist economy)
opt out of paying taxes to support nationstates with misogynistic policies (opt out of citizenship, go live in secret cabin)
or opt in to protesting these things when you observe them
opt in to protesting these things from the inside
but the inside wants you out, and theyre going to do their best to change you via pressure—possibly change you to dead.
analogy - option 1: interview by male boss whose remakes imply to you that the job is predicated on your ability to brush off misogyny. you get the job by keeping your mouth shut or by agreeing, and work for someone who treats you like shit. you feel sort of gross, but you’re happy because you have a job.
option 2: at interview you call out misogyny and fail to get hired—the boss actually calls you a dyke bitch because he feels safe from sanction (no one ever takes the time or risks their job to bust him with some higher authority). you have no job and are in a financially tight situation and you are very very angry and unhappy both because you have no job and because the world is to blame. it feels like shit.
the girl in option 1 accepts lower pay than male coworkers in addition to being verbally abused, and is maybe later sexually assulted by her boss, who was testing for weakness and found it.
women who let shit pass create the standard that has women who dont let shit pass fearing for their safety and feeling like the world is against them; im not at all willing to say that women who are passive about oppression help create that oppression, but they sure as shit arent speeding the solution along by mostly-colluding. when you uncle tom it, the system has time to change around you and force you back out.
(Source: thenumberisalways23)
